Healed & Happy: The Only Program Designed Exclusively for Fearful Avoidants
If you have a fearful avoidant attachment style, you already know that most advice doesn’t work for you. You may have tried therapy. You may have read books, watched videos, even joined online programs. But none of it seemed to truly understand what you were going through. Not fully. Not in a way that helped you feel safe and seen. Not in a way that actually changed the way your nervous system responded.
That is exactly why I created Healed & Happy.
This is not just another trauma course. It is not a general attachment program with a fearful avoidant module added in. It is a complete healing journey, built from the ground up, for one purpose only. To help people with a fearful avoidant attachment style finally feel safe, connected, and at peace.
Built by someone who lived it
Before I helped others heal, I was a fearful avoidant myself. I lived with the panic, the shame, the cycles of pushing away people when they came too close. I tried to find answers, but everything I read felt clinical, cold, and detached from what it actually feels like to be a fearful avoidant. Most of what was written back then was either confusing, completely wrong, or deeply shaming.
So I started sharing my own insights online. What began as a side project turned into something much bigger. Hundreds of people reached out. They said, “You are describing exactly what I feel,” and “This is the first time I feel understood.”
That is how Healed & Happy was born.
The first program of its kind
Healed & Happy was created in 2021, and to this day, it remains the only healing program designed exclusively for people with a fearful avoidant attachment style (for as far as I know). At the time, there was nothing like it. It was the first of its kind. And now, with over four years of results, participant feedback, and refinement, it is also the most experienced program in the world for healing the fearful avoidant.
This program is not adapted from something else. It was made for you. Every module, every tapping session, every pathway, every word: all of it was chosen with the fearful avoidant nervous system in mind.
What makes it different
It does not assume that you want to feel good, calm, or safe. It understands that those feelings can feel threatening.
It uses techniques like EFT, which allow you to heal at your own pace, in your own space, without needing to hand over control. EFT very specifically fits the Fearful Avoidant.
It includes a foundational course plus tailor-made pathways that change based on your needs, your symptoms, and your growth.
It measures progress with detailed emotional and cognitive markers, so you know exactly what is shifting and why.
It was created by someone who has lived through every part of the journey you are now walking.
It is made with deep knowledge and understanding of the very specific, often counterintuitive, challenges that come with healing the fearful avoidant attachment style.
Designed for the most misunderstood attachment style
The fearful avoidant attachment style is often misunderstood, mislabeled, or ignored completely. Even attachment specialists sometimes lump it together with anxious or avoidant traits, missing the complex internal contradictions that define the FA experience.
But you are not a mix of two types. You are not a confusion. You are not broken. You are a person with a highly intelligent survival system that just never felt safe enough to turn off.
This program was made for you.
And now, after helping over 3,000 people and collecting data that shows an average 75 percent improvement in key areas like anxiety, fear of rejection, and emotional regulation, Healed & Happy is more than a program. It is a proven path to peace.
If nothing else has worked, it is not because you are beyond help. It is because you have never had something made specifically for your attachment style.
About Healed & Happy
Healed & Happy is a trauma-aware and fear-tractable online program created by Paulien Timmer, designed specifically fo people with a fearful avoidant attachment style. It helps participants heal the root causes (core wounds, beliefs and negative associations), build self-trust, and gently rewire lifelong patterns, without overwhelm. Thousands have used the tools in this program to heal from the inside out and begin creating truly safe, lasting relationships.
🕰️ This page was written by Paulien Timmer, published on August 6, 2025.