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I’m Paulien Timmer, Fearful Avoidant Attachment Expert. I’ve helped over 3,000 people to heal deep attachment wounds and build healthy, lasting relationships. My proven program — Healed & Happy — guides you step-by-step to transform from fear to freedom. If you’re ready to reclaim trust, connection, and clarity in how you love, you’re in exactly the right place.
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HEALING THE

FEARFUL AVOIDANT

I’m Paulien Timmer, Fearful Avoidant Attachment Expert. I’ve helped over 3,000 people to heal deep attachment wounds and build healthy, lasting relationships. My proven program — Healed & Happy — guides you step-by-step to transform from fear to freedom. If you’re ready to reclaim trust, connection, and clarity in how you love, you’re in exactly the right place.
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Hi, I'm Paulien

I am so happy you are here, because the fearful avoidant attachment style can have such a big impact on every part of your life. I’ve experienced it myself and I see so many people struggling with it. The good news is: you can 100% heal the fearful avoidant attachment style! And it’s my mission to help you with it. That’s why I developed the Healed & Happy program! I can’t wait to start this healing journey with you… Do you want to read more about my own healing journey? Watch the video! Do you want to get more background info on the fearful avoidant attachment style: check out the rest of the video’s on my YouTube channel trough the button below! Don’t forget: you are an absolute badass. You have so many beautiful gifts. You are so worthy. Lots of love, Paulien
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Basic program of 7 modules

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+ Tailormade modules assigned to you based on surveys

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What is the Healed & Happy program about?

Out of all the attachment styles, the fearful avoidant one is the least understood, it has the least research and there are so many takes and misconceptions on it. And the attachment style has such a big impact. That’s why I’m so happy you’re here. Because you can one hundred precent heal this!
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HEALED & HAPPY

  • Look forward to the rest of your life
  • Deeply connect with your partner and (possible future) children
  • Create lifelong deeply, trusted and fulfilling friendships
  • Fully being yourself, so you can live a life you thoroughly enjoy
  • Honoring, respecting and loving yourself

The Healed & Happy program is an interactive app, where you follow a foundational course. After that you’re assigned specific pathways, tailormade to what you need, based on  surveys you fill out.

We continuously developing the program and the pathways so they cover the widest variety of subjects specific to the fearful avoidant attachment style.

Don't miss out on this opportunity to heal your attachment style!
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“Just did Module 2 – Who you are. It almost brought tears to my eyes. This was the thing I was searching for the last 8 years Paulien, and maybe my whole life before that unconsciously due to attachment trauma..”

Andris from Latvia

Step-by-Step Process

My Proven Process for Your Success

Proven

Paulien has developed 2 successful programs in the Netherlands which helped more than 1000 people in healing their attachment style & finding more peace, rest and love in their relationship. Out of all the attachment styles, the fearful avoidant one is the least understood, it has the least research and there are so many takes and misconceptions on it. Paulien is, besides helping people in their healing process, very passionate and committed to change this!

Personal

Healing is a personal process. A lot of people are on different stages and take different routes. That's logical and so important as well. We want to honor that process by providing an interactive tool that will help you walk your own path at your own pace. That's why this fearful avoidant program is mainly developed around a tailormade app that will suit your path and the steps you take. It almost feels like you have a 24/7 guide with you that is accessible when you need

Professional

The Healed & Happy program is developed by Paulien Timmer, author of 2 books & the nr 1 'doubt coach' of the Netherlands. - MSc Health and Society - Gottman's '7 Principles for Making Marriage Work' Educator - Gottman's Clinical Therapy Level 1 Attachment & Trauma - International Trauma Training Institute And... is a very happy wife (and mother!) after her own healing journey of doubts and struggles with the fearful avoidant attachment style.

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🕰️ This page was written by Paulien Timmer, published on November 27, 2023 and last updated on October 22, 2025.