Is Healed & Happy Right for Me? A Self-Check for Fearful Avoidants

You’ve done the inner work. You’ve tried therapy, journaling, maybe even trauma healing. And yet… something still doesn’t click.

If you feel like your progress stalls, your mind races, and your relationships are exhausting, you might be dealing with the fearful avoidant attachment style. And if so, you may need something far more specific than general trauma work.

This article will help you figure out if Healed & Happy is the next right step for you. Below is a self-check, based on real experiences from over 3,000 people who’ve gone through the program.

Part 1: Emotional Check — Do These Feel Familiar?

Check all that apply:

• You’re often overwhelmed by your thoughts and feelings
  You switch between wanting closeness and pushing people away
• You fear hurting others or being “too much”
• You can’t fully relax, even when nothing’s wrong
• You avoid peace because it feels unsafe
• You worry you’ll never be able to trust yourself
• You constantly question your relationship (ROCD)
• You have a deep fear of being abandoned
• You feel shame for how you’ve acted in the past
• You try so hard to heal, but nothing fully lands

If most of these statements resonate, you may be operating from a fearful avoidant attachment system, and Healed & Happy was built specifically for that.

Part 2: What You’re Longing For

You don’t just want symptom relief. You want:

• To feel calm, safe, and emotionally steady
• To stop overthinking everything
• To trust yourself in relationships and decisions
• To experience closeness without panic
• To set boundaries without guilt
• To believe you’re allowed to be happy, now
• To stop trying to earn love
• To stop healing forever and finally arrive

“I used to feel like I was working so hard and getting nowhere. Now I feel like I’m really healing — for the first time.”

Part 3: How Healed & Happy Meets You There

This program is:

• Designed exclusively for fearful avoidants
• Created by someone who lived it and healed it
• Filled with tools that work with your fear brain, not against it
• Flexible, personalized, and shame-free
• Structured to help you heal efficiently and deeply
• Backed by data, with an average 70% reduction in symptoms

This is not just another online course. It’s a program that mirrors you, supports you, and guides you with real precision and care.

Closing Reflection

If you’re reading this and feel like someone just named your internal world, then yes, Healed & Happy might be exactly what you’ve been looking for.

We’re ready for you and can’t wait to guide you. 

About Healed & Happy

Healed & Happy is a trauma-aware and fear-tractable online program created by Paulien Timmer, designed specifically fo people with a fearful avoidant attachment style. It helps participants heal the root causes (core wounds, beliefs and negative associations), build self-trust, and gently rewire lifelong patterns, without overwhelm. Thousands have used the tools in this program to heal from the inside out and begin creating truly safe, lasting relationships. 

https://www.healedhappy.com